There are things going on in my life right now that I would rather not have to face. Typically I do whatever I can to avoid dealing with unpleasant or difficult situations. Like most people, I've learned lots of ways to 'escape' pain and suffering. The problem is that it doesn't go away. It just settles deeper into my mind and body until something comes along and forces it outward. I think I know what can be the catalyst for this reopening of wounds but, honestly, I'm still surprised by what can set me off on a quest to get away from things that I don't like.
For over ten years I've had a sign posted above my desk. It is a quote from Bill Russell, the former coach of the Boston Celtics. It reads, "The game is scheduled. We have to play it. We might as well win." I have repeated that phrase countless times to other people and referred myself to it on occasions when I would just as soon hide under the bed than take on something yucky. In the past few years as I trained as a TED* Practitioner I saw the obvious parallel with how a Creator responds to challenges. Many times in training I will say that my mantra as a Creator is "I've got this!" (In fact that's the title of a two day training I'm offering in Tobermory in September.) For me, it is the acknowledgement and acceptance of my current reality, whether I like it or not.
We'll all have tough things we have to deal with; The loss or illness of a loved one, changes in work environments, rejection by someone, social discord, political upheaval and even negative self-talk. What I know for certain is that when I accept my current reality I stop the flow of drama that ensures I'll be in a victim orientation. Instead, I say "I've got this." I may not like what has shown up but I will focus on my desired outcome so that my actions are aligned with my values and not with fear or anxiety.
Ms. Daryl Wood is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach, a Certified TED* Practitioner and graduate of The Co-Active Leadership Program. After facilitating life-changing Women's Retreats for 17 years she is dedicated to sharing the The Empowerment Dynamic (TED*) material in organizations and to anyone eager to transform their relationship with themselves, others and situations.