I'm waiting again. And I have a 'story' about waiting which I have repeated over the years. It goes something like 'I'm not a good waiter because I've had many experiences going back to age 5 when waiting was difficult and even scary.' So, here I am well into mid-life and noticing that this story has such a negative impact on me when I am waiting for something to unfold. Intellectually and spiritually I know that things will work out as they always do and in the way they are meant to with the right people and results. My understanding of this can be summed up in a quote from A Course in Miracles that says "Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait; and to wait without anxiety."
For me, the outcome is always for my highest good. That can mean the outcome is wonderful or difficult. No matter what, I will learn and grow from it. Knowing that is what compels me to confront my 'bad waiter' story.
Waiting without anxiety is almost the epitome of common sense. Since none of us can ever, ever accurately predict the future, what would be the point of worrying? Worrying simply keeps our minds and hearts busy with anxiety, frustration and more limiting emotions, without influencing the outcome. It keeps us distracted from the present moment and in a state of unease and suspicion that what we are waiting for might not work out the way we want it to. In the end, things just do work out and we learn something, every single time. There is way too much evidence of unexplained, perfectly timed and miraculous results for me to question the power of divine synchronicity.
No matter what internal dialogue has me slip into my old story, I have tools to reset my thinking. Some are as simple as taking a pause to breathe through the feelings. Others come from the TED* work I teach where I recognize how I revictimize myself each time I put my focus anywhere other than what I want. Just knowing that I have the power to turn my attention to possibilities instead of problems is enough to ease any tension.
Ms. Daryl Wood is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach, a Certified TED* Practitioner and graduate of The Co-Active Leadership Program. After facilitating life-changing Women's Retreats for 17 years she is dedicated to sharing the The Empowerment Dynamic (TED*) material in organizations and to anyone eager to transform their relationship with themselves, others and situations.